Dating people you barely know actually reduces your chances to wind up with the right person. Let’s use logic and a little bit of psychology.
Your first face-to-face meeting makes you biased either against or toward your date. You can’t be impartial because personal interactions produce emotions, and emotions cloud judgement. As a result, you may dismiss a person who is right for you or, even worse, you may fall in love with a person who is wrong for you. If you believe that falling in love will help you both change and become right for each other, you are at least naive!
Online dating sites help you find potential or prospective partners. They 'match' you with people who you have something in common with. If you got twenty matches, does that mean they all are potentially right partners for you? Of course, not! Now it is your turn to continue the exploration of your compatibility.
Consider Self-Match to be an additional tool to help you narrow down your choices and find the one who is truly right for you.
For thousands of years, the only way to really get to know your partner was by witnessing their actions and choices through the years of living together. In the modern age of technology, people should be able to research their compatibility quickly to avoid bad dates and failed relationships. Self-Match gives you tools to do it.
When people ask questions in a face-to-face conversation or in ongoing correspondence, one of them learns the answer to a question first. Now equipped with the knowledge of the other partner's preferences, he or she can modify their response to solicit a favorable view of the other partner. This cannot happen with Self-Match since both partners answer the same question independently and they don't know what the other one wants to hear.
Consider this typical scenario during a face-to-face conversation:
Helen: Do you plan to go back to school?
Jim: I am not sure... What about you?
Helen: I am thinking of finishing my Bachelor's Degree.
Jim: Good for you! I've actually thought about it myself many times. I've got a couple of years of college.
Well, it is very possible that Jim would choose 'No way! I'm done with school' if asked this question in a Self-Match survey. When you don't know what answer your partner would favor most, the only option is to tell the truth.
Self-Match gives you complete control over the matching process. No more answering questions you find irrelevant; no more cookie-cutter surveys that you can't modify.
YOU get to choose questions that you like because they are relevant or important to you.
YOU get to decide how many questions and how many surveys to send.
YOU assign the importance value to your partner's responses in the TrueMatch Score Calculator.
YOU get to interprete your Matching Score and the TrueMatch Score for your partner to decide if s/he is a good match for you.
Send your prospective partner an Ice-Breaker survey – score at least
Send your prospective partner an Easy-Match survey – score at least
Send your prospective partner a custom 20-30 question survey using other questions categories - score at least
Use TrueMatch Score Calculator and compare the score to the scores of other partners. The TrueMatch Score of more than 3
Go on a date and discuss your Compatibility Reports. Note the importance of the things you have in common and how you handle your differences.
If 'chemistry' kicks in, CONGRATULATIONS, you have found a partner who is right for you!